The dance that teaches relationships

Hello, I'm posting this video because there was a profound life lesson I learned from it on Sunday. It wasn't just dancing but a version of how relationships happen. Please take a moment to read what I learned, I think you will agree. So on Sunday I went to Kizomba with my auntie, mom and cousin. Little did I know it would change my view on life. There were 2 instructors and they began to teach the dance. We started out individually learning the steps then we had to find a partner. One male one female, well of course there were more women to men, so every 5 mins the women were to rotate to the right so that every woman could have the chance to dance with a gentleman. A really nice older gentleman came to me and complimented me on my hair and how beautiful I was (all flattery) I laughed and thanked him . He also told me he didn't know what he was doing. So we began to dance. He didn't know how to lead and I wasn't comfortable following , then we rotated to the right. The next gentleman smiled politely and began the lead but had no clue on where he was going and for me to follow I kept stumbling . He then commands me to look at him as he rhythmlessly led me in the dance. Time to rotate to the right , I encountered a really tall nice looking guy, he was trying to get it and every once and a while we would find a rhythm then go out of step. Rotate to the right one more time, the gentleman asked me if I knew the dance? I said no so he told me to close my eyes and he would lead me. We rocked back and forth than with his subtle but direct guidance we began. He sometimes had to speak a word or two, but I was able to follow his guidance. Wow I was amazed, you see independent woman when you encounter a man who knows where he is going and isn't afraid to take the lead its OK to close your eyes and just follow the dance. (I didn't want to dance with anyone else so I went and sat down) . I also looked at my faith walk! You see this journey has taught me that I walk blindly with faith and God takes me by the hand and leads me gently in this dance. He has never failed me nor has he let me fall. When your in tuned to his word you glide in the dance. Final FYI: When "He" is your "HIM" your steps will match up and you can smile and enjoy the dance.... Let him lead......

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The "Tough Girl"

These are the pictures of my journey, The picture on the left is me  and my oldest on thanksgiving, The middle picture was me and my niece on Christmas and the one on the right is a representation of how I look today. Even though I lost my hair I didn't lose myself, my faith and my Life. My mom was with me today at my treatment and she kept saying I was a toughie. I realize that many people see me as a "tough girl.." I had a friend of mines Latashia Martin say to me just like her we represent the "tough girl" and with that no one thinks we need help. Why? because "we got this and we will make " it " happen" whatever "it" is.  A tough girl isn't born a "tough girl" she is molded into that position, and is penalized for being there. See people don't think you cry in the middle of the night because they see you smile in the middle of the day. No one knows that your strength runs low because " You got this" and you intimidate many because you are confident about who you are and they don't see that your vulnerable and love hard. "Tough girls " are tough because life has slapped them  in the face and there was no safety net to catch them. Your faith in God is tremendous because as you look back over your life and there are really only one set of foot prints in the sand and you know they aren't yours. Even when you acted a fool and turned your back on God he still carried the "tough girl" through. Boys run up and try to cling to "tough girls"  because she reminds them of their mothers , but resent her because she reminds them of their mother . While she walks forward and Men don't say a word to her because they judge her exterior as being to tough to handle and  to hard to hold, yet they  don't scratch the surface to realize the "tough girl" is vulnerable with standards. So as I carry the title of " Tough girl." Remember don't judge a book by its cover "Real Man" step up and let the " Tough girl" just be a girl...... Lets Keep walking...