Mothers What are we teaching our SON'S??

Mothers What are we teaching our sons?
I ask this question because I really want to know, not just from the perspective of a single mom of 2 son's but as a woman who has dated so many babied men. My mother once told me " boys will always be there" the was true but as we grow we want men, yet we(mothers) are loving our sons and raising our daughters. What does that mean? We apply pressure to our girls tell them to have their own  but our boys we coddle we baby them we act as if we don't want them to leave, and sometimes he stands in as our man at the age of 5yrs old. When you SINGLE MOM are handling all of the bill do you show him, teach him, talk to him "YOUR SON" about what  your doing? or do you  just work harder not smarter to get him what he wants because you feel guilty that there is no father to assist raise him. Do you show him super woman? so that when he grows up he either looks to be mommied or  he rebels because you were so dominate  that any woman who comes to help he sees her as controlling. Mothers have you told your son's I'm mom and I will never be dad , I cant show you how to be a man, but I can guide you along the path on how a woman should be treated. Mothers do we just work and work and work yet he sees no product from your labor and your lights still get cut off ? so he decides he can make fast money in a fraction of the time because the struggle isn't worth it, and his life is worthless. Mothers do our son's have a  voice or do we shush them because we got this when in all actuality we don't. Mothers what are we teaching our son's about relationship? He is the prize instead of realizing he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing? My sons are my life long case studies to this question and I wonder :MOTHERS WHAT ARE WE TEACHING OUR SONS??????!!!!