One thing thing that I have learned through listening to others and my own observation, is when a person tells you who they are listen . When some one tells you they are a duck, and you try to convince them or yourself they are a swan your headed for disappointment. Now don't get me wrong there are people that have potential and sometimes we see the potential in a person that they don't see in themselves. When you encounter this, it sometimes turns into you pouring into a bottomless pit of emotion. Which will drain you and frustrate you and make you doubt who you are, because you have poured and poured that you get lost and have to find yourself again. That right there!!! is just a vicious cycle of crazy. When someone tells you who they are listen, stay if that's what the Holy spirit is telling you to do, but if not RUN for your life. You personally cant fix anyone.
I was speaking with someone today I haven't seen in years and never really held a conversation with, but was always really sweet when ever we crossed paths. His big sister is my big sister (she use to date my brother and we stayed connected . even if we hadn't spoken in years I knew I could pickup the phone and I knew everything would still flow like when I was 19yrs old.)
The sibling to my "big sis" began to speak and he is raw , honest when it comes to conversation, a rare feature in a person when you first meet them. He intrigued me not on a sexual level, but on a learning level. I listened to him speak, and he can recognize game in a heart beat. The streets couldn't trick him if they wanted to but, he wasn't honest with his heart. I heard him speak and this "ride them rough"brotha that was talking wasn't the man he really desires to share. We spoke of his present "thingy thing" cant call it a relationship because, he wouldn't brand it that way. He spoke about the "shorty"(that's what he named her) that he had encountered for almost a year. (NOW LET ME STOP HERE!! when you ride with some one beyond 6 months and they can frustrate you and you will stop what your doing to match up with their plans that's a relationship.) I listened to his attentiveness, and frustration ( you don't get frustrated about a fling) and I heard his heart. The chaos and confusion brought mood swings to this person and I smiled. He has spoke out of his mouth what his heart isn't following. Now am I saying he is in love NO not at all. What I am saying is he wants something that his mouth is saying he doesn't want and "shorty pie" hasn't read the signs. So I listened some more he hides behind his child, she is his shield of protection. See baby girl isn't in the same city as he is and he determined to be an great dad to her ,but many great fathers may not live in the same town as their child and their greatness doesn't fade. Heck there are many dead beat busters that live in the same city as their precious seed and don't give a flying fig newton about the gift that was given to them from their loins. He knows who he is and he know what he wants , and wants to have a family and not be hurt in the midst of building one. He better line his head up with his heart or he will stay on this road of hiding hiding his true self, like so many do) Hurt is apart of Love and if you don't believe it your missing out.
What I'm saying is listen to what a person tells you. They will tell you who they are. Be careful whats coming out of your mouth it may not be lining up with your heart.
Great post. I have come to know that people are not honest about where they really are in relationships (for many reason: fear, shame, lack of experience or knowledge). If the Holy spirit guides you to a situation, the ownership of getting you through it, is on him. I agree, one can't fix another but God has anointed us as an agent of change. If one lives truth before another, it will always cause someone to either step up or bow out. We always have to start with our authentic selves (way more attractive than the representative) so we can avoid the pitfalls and trappings of our adversaries and see what we are getting into before we invest our time and energy.
ReplyDeleteGod asked Adam: "who told you that you were naked?", it caused him to examine himself. Much like when one gets involved with another person, fails at relationship and has to rediscover themselves. A wise man once told me: "whatever you don't wait for God to do, you will have to wait for him to fix". We start out right and trust God with our desires we can surely avoid many of the heartaches we experience. Thanks for sharing.
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